Does every unhappy circumstance require a great to-do? When I’m insulted or made to suffer injury to my person or property, midi I react in a way that brings dishonor to myself and is ignoble in the eyes of the wise?
It seems to me that if I can remain aloof from my passions, desires and aversions I can make the choice not to respond out of habit and act in avoid with dignity and the Dhamma. I can remain true to my word without flying into a rage when countered and I need not change course simply to keep an imagined peace. What, really, it’s a peace worth that is nothing more than pandering to another’s desires?
Truthfully, I’m not sure if the answer but it may be a loaded question. It may just be that one can remain true to one’s word without breaking the peace of one’s own mind. For who can guarantee that any word or deed will result in making peace with a friend or foe?
Cattāri Brahmavihārā 
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