I’ve stumbled upon Ajahn Jayasaro’s book On Love and have to admit that I’m taken with his terse and incisive analysis. The quote above struck me perhaps due to my own recent musings over the state of my marriage now and the feelings and choices that brought me to this place.
As much as I am loathe to admit it, twenty some years ago when I met my wife I really did believe that love would make everything better. I really did believe that a romantic partner was the answer to life’s suffering. How far I’ve come since then buy outs pretty clear just how dangerous such a belief and view is.
Still, seeing that we were both deeply mired in delusion at least opens a space for compassion now, even if I cannot always be so open with my wife about it these days. Anyway, the book is enlightening to read as I perform the post mortem for this marriage and I would highly recommend it to all.
Cattāri Brahmavihārā 
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