It can be hard not talking responsibility for the resentment and anger of someone close to us. It can be hard trying to figure out, from one moment to the next, where we should act and where we should cultivate equanimity.
When someone insists on being angry and harboring resentment despite your efforts to bring equity into a situation, it seems to me that the best that can be done is to remain evenly sympathetic. In fact, choosing anger when it would be equally possible and rational to choose appreciation of another’s concern for your wellbeing and sense of justice send like a bad choice for so many reasons. You experience suffering now and in the future while conditioning your mind to fly more easily into anger. So, when seeing someone in this state, what else but karuna is called for?
Cattāri Brahmavihārā 
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