It’s an interesting conundrum: how does one successfully balance brahmacariya with the brahmaviharas? This morning, as I was trying to cultivate mudita for a female I know I realized that I could no longer do so and keep my composure. There was a definite attraction there that I might not have noticed before but the craving become so obvious that I needed to switch gears. It’s clear now why inadvisable to try to cultivate metta for the opposite sex.
I think, however, this points to a larger issue in my practice: how do I resist the urge to shut down and close in while practicing brahmacariya and still be able to practice the brahmaviharas?
Cattāri Brahmavihārā 
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