What to do when someone else’s foolishness causes them to get hurt and they blame it on you? Whereas I have been willing to apologize in these cases before to keep the peace I am not so inclined at this point. Why discuss? Why plead my case when it’s clear that the person who is aggrieved can’t see beyond their victimhood? If you try to lock me out and are surprised at my attempt to open the door as you slide the chain to, who can you blame but yourself when you hurt your finger? In this case, it seems to be me.
I feel that to ask forgiveness in this case is only to justify and encourage more foolishness. So, rather than give it any more thought I’m going to let it go as there will be no resolution.
Cattāri Brahmavihārā 
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