As much as I’d like to pretend that I have no trouble keeping a lid on it when I’m frustrated or annoyed I have to admit that that’s just not the case. In daily life and at work is actually not an issue but at home with two kids it can be quite the dilemma. Still, the household life is the primary reason for taking on these formal aspirations so it is here that I must do the lion share of my work. Wish me luck.
Posted by: Michael | 05/16/2016
I make the firm aspiration to refrain from speaking when angered or irritated.
Posted in Abhaya-cariya, Buddha, Buddhism, Daily Practice, Dhamma, Parenting, Theravada | Tags: annoyance, irritation, parenting
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Cattāri Brahmavihārā 
I don’t believe it’s necessary to not speak at all when angry, just not to speak from a place of anger. Be mindful and recognise you are angry and then you are out of the ‘trap’. You aren’t anger’s slave anymore because you have stepped out of the anger. You then have the freedom to choose to speak in a way that is ‘right speech’ even though anger is present.
By: bitesizedharma on 05/16/2016
at 1:35 pm
Thank you for your thoughts. I find it hard not to speak from anger when angry but that’s more reflective of my development as a practitioner. I will definitely try to keep honing my mindfulness and clear comprehension so that I can get to a place where that’s possible. Be well!
By: Upāsaka on 05/16/2016
at 1:38 pm