Posted by: Upāsaka | 11/10/2015


Each day that I make it home after with and the kids are all up devolves into a grudge match of duties and obligations: do homework, wash dishes, clean the litter, take our the garbage ask while my wife acts as the sarcastic and abusive forewoman. And despite my justified displeasure with the situation what did is my practice if I continue to fall prey to the same defilements again and again?

Tonight I was centered enough to keep my mouth shut but even while I was restrained verbally I was a mess in mind and heart.  This is my challenge: not solely to forebear but to do so with a heart of love. I must learn to bear injustice with a smile, hardship with joy and insult without feeling injured.


  1. This is so hard. It seems as if we are in parallel places with our spouses. I’m trying to do my best to forbear also, but I end up being afflicted with self-righteousness and resentment. I have also been unskillful in my responses, especially when I have felt persecuted in some way–like when I have spent a lot of time working selflessly, and then I am told that I haven’t done enough. So this is where the sangha can lift us up and remind us that we are householders living our dharma in the world, and will be given many opportunities every day to awaken for the benefit of all. I bow to you with hands at my heart.

    • And I to you my friend. Thanks for your support and may we meet with success.

  2. Patience is the 6th Perfection:

    • Thank you Bhante! Sadhu! Sadhu! Sadhu!

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