Posted by: Upāsaka Subhavi | 09/29/2014


My visit to my father’s had the consequence of completely throwing me off of my normal rhythm and, whereas some people thrive on spontaneity, I am not one of them. Still it is always interesting and informative to see just how quickly the imprints of one’s practice fade away when the supporting conditions are removed. In my case I lapse very quickly into irritation and anger although there were a number of small but surprising victories that serve as proof that my efforts are not all in vain.

One thing that I took away from the difficult days at my father’s was the benefit of spending all or part of a sesson cultivating the brahmaviharas for one person in particular and allowing oneself to be guided by the heart in formulating the particular practice rather than a flow chart in the mind. I believe I have made mention of this before but I find the opening so natural and the results so good that I believe I will try to make this a regular part of my practice from now on.

So, now that I have returned le me make the most of these precious conditions to mold the heart into the shape of wisdom before it’s too late.


  1. It can be so difficult to remain in touch with your bodhisattva nature when in the presence of one’s family of origin. I have found that my immediate family members (mother, father, sisters) can trigger my reactivity like no one else can. Just being aware of this, I am able to observe it happening, and examine it under the lens of inquiry. Over time, it will change.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.


Shillelagh Studies

A hub for the music, culture, knowledge, and practice of Irish stick-fighting, past and present.