Posted by: Michael Rickicki | 11/25/2012

Train Dhamma – Commuting for the Holidays


So, it’s the Sunday after Thanksgiving and my family is returning from the in-law’s by train along with thousands of other families. As usual my anxiety level is pretty high as I attempt to manage my kids in the confines of a packed train. At times like this I am thankful for the Kindle Fire despite my secret, Luddite leanings. Today I don’t feel the enmity from my fellow travelers nearly as much and that may be me or due to the fact that there’s no more expectation left: the holidays are over now.

Nonetheless, the animosity that I pick up on from others either as a generalized emotional milieu or specifically directed at me and/or my children is something I constantly struggle with. It’s a very base drive to react agressively when one feels that one’s children are threatened and I have experienced people doing just that on more than one occasion (thankfully it has only thus far been verbal). And, I must admit that I have yet to respond in a way that I can be proud. At such times the Simile of then Sa
w pops immediately to mind and I end up feeling doubly bad. So far my depth of practice has yet to plumb the depths of parental anxiety so I must resolve to do my best and practice well enough that it someday will.


  1. My daughters is 27 so there is no problem about travelling. My anxiety arises from the fact that now ALL Italian trains have windows that don’t open, due to the velocity of the trains. The FS, State Railroads have all gone high-velocity trains and I suffer from claustrophobia so there’s no way I am going to take one of those trains. A few months ago I returned home to Sicily from Rome and took a bus with my husband. It took us three days, with stopovers, to get home but at least I didn’t have to worry about stuffy trains. They are air conditioned but half the time the airconditioning doesn’t work! So much for Italian efficienct! I am following you from Sicily!

  2. Reblogged this on Javmode.

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