Right Speech is, of course, one of the factors of the Eightfold Path so it should always be at the fore. Unfortunately, I have found that my speech can often be rough and acerbic when it comes to my wife and children. For this reason I’ve made the practice of not just right but specifically pleasant speech one of my daily aspirations.
Clearly, I don’t intend to contravene the Buddha’s advice on samma vaca so I will be as truthful as possible, avoiding idle chatter and flattery but in terms of tone there is much work to be done. I’m finding that aiming for speech that is not solely truthful and timely but is pleasant in regard to its delivery and affect gives me more to work with and hold onto. Truthfully, this may simply be an aspect of Right Speech that I have previously neglected but, whatever it is, it deserves more attention.
May I speak only words that are well-gifted, pleasant and truthful.
Cattāri Brahmavihārā 
Tone can be so difficult and I used to struggle with it also. I still do sometimes, but I’ve been actively working on it. It’s great that you are aware. Many people aren’t and awareness of things such as tone that we can’t hear but affects others is a blessing.
By: mythirdeyewide on 02/16/2017
at 4:18 am