I undertake the training rule to refrain from useless or meaningless conversation.
When it comes right down to it I have to admit that almost everything I say could be considered idle chatter. Nowhere is this more true than at work where I feel the need to be the funny man, offering commentary on everything and everyone. This is likely exacerbated by the fact that I’m boss so rather than being put in my place I meet with laughter and approval.
In some ways I feel that I am perhaps being a bit harsh but that is really the crux of it isn’t it? When it comes down to it I just don’t know the impact I’m having on others so tbe smartest thing to do may just be to keep my trap shut except when necessary.
Which brings me to my final worry: even if I am strong enough to keep a lid on useless speech won’t I alienate everyone by not engaging in my usual, “friendly” banter? I have an inkling that if I could just practice all of these training rules regarding speech that wouldn’t be a problem at all since what words I did say would be pleasing to the ear and useful. May I redouble my efforts and learn to train my mind through my mouth.
Cattāri Brahmavihārā 
I would really consult your local Sanga about this. It’s a very good question.
By: thetarotmistress on 09/19/2014
at 10:31 pm
Haha…I’ve thought about this alot. My conclusion is that we live in a different society than Buddhism. But, certainly do not offend or alienate anyone…other than that, nothing wrong with some casual talk
By: kachakhana on 09/20/2014
at 12:24 am
I’d suggest the middle way! I made the mistake early on in practice of over-monitoring myself to the extent that I became tongue tied to a certain extent. I stopped being spontaneous in my speech. Now I’m more relaxed and find I avoid cynical remarks, criticism of others more naturally. This is all we should be concerned about; whether our speech is helpful, hurtful or neutral. As I have a tendency to avoid small talk I find it important to engage others in conversation in a gentle way.
By: erikleo on 09/20/2014
at 2:43 pm